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Sex is in Mind
By shiva on Nov 12, 2009 | In Welcome | Send feedback »
Simple thinking and small experiences indicate this fact very aptly.
Consider a hypothetical situation:
A Society / group, isolated from the rest of the world has only one gender. For now, lets consider that, the hypothetical society is 'XX'-Ladies/Gals. A guy enters that society.
This lady society has typical civilization that all are nude. Consider they have no dress code.
What are the possible reactions this guy has:
a) Initially he gets excited which might be driven by 2 possible reasons
1) He has been missing / desiring sex for a long time, hence his mind initiates all the signals for excitation
2) The other possible reason is driven the lady society who are excited which in turn excites this guy irrespective of him having time to identify whether it is his acceptance or his submission.
Sex is mutual which means, both the parties should be on same page to enjoy the happiness of 'love making'.
This means that both, the guy and gal, have been desiring for 'making love' and here is an opportunity, they have felt the happiness. The desire of making love is in the MIND which dictates the body, not the body dictating the mind.
Lets get into another argument.
The society is full of XX. Each one have decided to have the pleasure. May be for 5 - 50 continuous or consecutive 'love makings', he also enjoys. After that he will start hating himself. He would feel like a slave. He would start going through very intense introspection and frustration and depression. It becomes very mechanical. He doesnt enjoy 'making love' any more. He will erase the past, strongly held special opinions about 'XX' and their bodily attractions.
The question is "why it should become mechanical, with out involvement, even though, the guy has access to the most beautiful gals on earth - say ( relative to his previous experiences) ???". The bodies are same, the bodies are attracting, but the guy is no more getting attracted. He is pissed off about his state of life.
The simple reason is: MIND GETS SATURATED. ONCE MIND GETS SATURATED, LIFE BECOMES MISERABLE.
Consider one more situation:
This guy has a crush on a girl. The girl also develops crush. They decide for a date. On the night of the date, the guy is on bed, waiting in all anticipation, dreams, expectations about the girl and all that stuff, you know.
The girl comes in the most sexy lingerie and she appears she is all excited.
They do some foreplay. This girl suddenly stops, with a frank face reveals that she has some STD (sexually transmitted disease) - consider for argument sake.
The question : Will this guy go ahead and make love with that girl?
Most normal human beings will immediately loose all the heat, they would not take the risk of getting an STD because of this temporary pleasure.
The point which is worth concentrating is: He loosing the heat. The bodies, a few seconds before in heat, have lost all in seconds. What changed ?
The attitude about sex and the participant - some thought process has changed, which means, the MIND has changed the course of 'love making' to 'no love making'.
Hence, the bottom line is: SEX is in the MIND, not body.
This is valid for both males and females.
May be at the most, BODY may add some additional value to a situation, but its the attitude that matters,which gives the satisfaction.
So, one need not be proud of body, with out an attitude in MIND.
Where is problem:
The information passed on from our senses to the MIND is so immediate and so instantaneous that we almost forget that BODY and MIND are two separate entities. We forget and hence we identify ourselves with body almost on every aspect. This is exactly is called Illusion , Maya. If one becomes conscious of this fact and sees the world (Physical) and tries to understand the world from this stand point, he/she shall always be out of misery. Thats exactly is the start or initiation of detachment and discrimination. This is exactly, our Indian Sages, Saints, Ascetics have preached all through their life.
Many know this fact: Why I articulated it in my words is:
The youth are deliberately distracted from the core values of life and priorities of life by the marketing and sales gimmicks by the Businessmen around the world, especially because the Capitalist society is losing its motives, slowly and steadily.
Bottom Line: Indian Culture/ Indian way of living is an ideal balance between Mental and Physical world, with main stress on improving the Mental Capabilities, every second of living.
However, business, marketing, capitalists, seems like, have taken the oath of destroying the true way of living. How cheap and trivial is this thought and how ridiculous is attempting to prove it. Thats it 200 years, America has no more future. It lost its shine. Same thing will happen. Experience brings us back to track, some day.
Enjoy Life.
